Adam and Eve. The first humans. Generators of humanity. What do we imagine when we think of Adam and Eve? We usually imagine a dark and thick forest, Adam and Eve standing bare or running from some beast from the forest. But it wasn’t like that. They were God-sent. They were sent to earth at the same time but not the same place. The purpose of their lives was to generate humanity. So they spent a better part of their lives trying to find each other. And when they found each other, the first human relationship was formed that turned to be their savior. Would they have survived if they weren’t there for each other? Adam and Eve were both saddened by their removal from the Garden of Eden and this massive, horrifying, beautiful world couldn’t fill the void that was in their hearts. So they found each other and saved themselves. The first human relationship was the savior of humanity.
What is the point of human relationships in our life? By relationships, I mean family, friends or the love of your life. They are here when we need them and we are there when they need us. Have you ever seen two relatives meeting after a long time? They smile first because they are happy to see each other. Then they vent their hearts out to each other, the things that have been bothering them and saddening them, the things that they’ve been doing alone and then you laugh over somethings. And when you leave the table, you end up feeling great. You are happy again.
Pain. Sorrow. Grief. Sadness. Don’t they all sound like some very cheap words? Who has got time to deal with pain when life is so beautiful and busy? But pain is real. It exists. It’s coming to every human being is inevitable. All our life either converges to a point or diverges from a point. That point in your life is called pain. Some experience it early in life, some later in life; some in a single incident, some in a series of incidents. The way you handle that pain determines the rest of your life. Some mask it and ignore it until their minds forget it and they get busy with life. Some accept it but don’t bury it, they battle with it everyday until they are strong enough to handle another one. But most of the people handle it by sharing it with others, their relations. They express their feelings to each other and end up being happy. And that is why we need them: TO BE HAPPY.
But we forget that HAPPINESS IS NOT THE POINT OF LIFE. To me, being content is a far greater purpose than being happy. The idea of using people to comfort yourself. Doesn’t that sound selfish to you? It is selfish. But everyone is selfish. The sooner you realize that, the better. If you are using them then they are also using you. You are selfish. Accept that. But have you risen to that level of confidence where you don’t need anyone to get their life? Are you enough for yourself? If yes, be proud of that. Be proud that you have become selfish enough to get through life on your own. But no one remains happy alone. True happiness only comes from each other.
If you can become strong enough to get through life alone and happiness is not the point of your life, then what is the point of human relationships anymore? Let’s all be on our way. Now that would be true selfishness. You can be selfish and considerate at the same time. So be.
Empathy, The greatest desire of a human. But also the breaking point of every human relationship. All we want is empathy, but the most we can get is sympathy. So if you have become strong enough to go through it alone and happiness is not the point of your life, then bring empathy to the table.
Break the chain. Bring a little empathy. Break the chain. Love them because you want to love and they deserve to be loved. Not because they’re your free therapies or your comfort zones. Love due to love and not because you have no one else to cry your feelings out to. Happiness is not the point of life. Love for the sake of love.
Written by: Sohaib Ali
